Let's Bust a Myth (Not a Move)

The first dance. Some love it. Some dread it. And some would rather be trapped in a lift with their in-laws than sway in front of a crowd while being filmed from six angles.

So here's the deal: You don't have to do it.

You can get married without gliding around a dancefloor like you're on Strictly. Your wedding isn't a performance — it's a celebration. And the only rules are the ones you make.

Why Skip It?

Because not everyone's a natural-born twirler. Maybe:

  • You get hives at the thought of being centre stage
  • One (or both) of you has two left feet and a mild phobia of choreography
  • You just don't fancy the fuss

Whatever the reason — it's valid. You're allowed to say, "No thanks," and move on with your day.

Fun Alternatives That Still Feel Meaningful

So what can you do instead? Loads. Here are a few ideas that don't involve shuffling awkwardly while your guests politely clap.

  • 🔹 Group Dance Kick-off
    Get everyone on the floor from the start. No pressure, just a party vibe. Bonus points for a cheesy throwback track.
  • 🔹 A Song Dedication (No Dancing Required)
    Play a track that means something to you both. Let the music do the talking while you have a moment together — no spotlight needed.
  • 🔹 Marryoke
    Yes, it's a thing. Think karaoke meets wedding video — your guests lip-syncing and miming to a favourite tune throughout the day. It's silly, joyful and makes for a hilarious keepsake.
  • 🔹 Toast, Not Twirl
    Fancy a toast instead of a twirl? Step up, raise a glass, say a few heartfelt (or cheeky) words, then open the floor with a banger.

Still Want Something?

If you're not up for a full-on first dance, consider:

  • A private dance just the two of you (before the guests arrive or after they've gone)
  • A "first moment" instead — maybe lighting a candle, playing a video, or sharing a story

You don't have to scrap everything. You just need to do what feels right.

Your Day, Your Way

This isn't about being rebellious. It's about being real.

You can absolutely have a wedding without a first dance. Or speeches. Or cake. Or chair covers. None of it is compulsory — only your love story is.

So don't force a moment that doesn't feel like you. There are better ways to kick off the party than anxiety in a tux.

And if you need help finding the right vibe (dance or no dance), I'll be there — tunes at the ready, judgement not included.

Planning at venues like Ufton Court? Their flexible spaces are perfect for creating celebrations that feel authentically yours, whether that includes dancing or not.

Shortlist venues, then dive into the Berkshire venue guide for spaces that support your unique vision.

Curious how I weave your story into the day? Read The Love Story.