Your Day, Your Rules

Let's be honest — weddings can feel like a greatest hits compilation of other people's expectations. White dress? Three-tier cake? Awkward first dance in front of distant relatives you barely know?

No thanks.

Your wedding should feel like you, not like you're starring in a show you didn't audition for. So let's drop the script and write a new one — the kind that makes your mates smile and your nan say, "Well, that was different!"

Remixing the Old Classics

Traditions aren't bad — they're just suggestions in fancy packaging. You can keep the bits you like and bin the rest.

Hate the idea of a big dramatic entrance? Sneak in with your partner and start the party together. For more alternatives, see Do You Really Need a First Dance?

Not into white? Rock a red suit, floral frock or sequins at sunrise — whatever feels like you.

Don't fancy cake? Serve up the dessert from your first date. Sticky toffee pudding > marzipan mountain.

This isn't about being quirky for the sake of it. It's about choosing meaning over mimicry.

Themes That Actually Mean Something

Forget "rustic chic" or "boho luxe" unless they genuinely speak to you. Want a wedding themed around your shared obsession with retro video games or 80s glam rock? Go for it.

I've seen:

  • A sci-fi wedding where the couple entered to the Star Wars cantina band
  • A Wes Anderson-inspired reception (everything was symmetrical and slightly odd — in the best way)
  • A colour-coded rave with glowsticks and a glitter cannon

Your theme doesn't have to impress Pinterest. It just needs to feel like home.

Music That Tells Your Story

Here's where I come in. The right soundtrack doesn't just fill the silence — it narrates your day.

Planning at venues like The Royal Berkshire? Their elegant spaces are perfect for creating a truly personalized celebration that breaks free from tradition.

Whether it's:

  • The track you bonded over on your first road trip
  • The one your mate sang (badly) at karaoke the night you got engaged
  • Or something that just makes you both grin like idiots

I'll help you shape a setlist that makes the whole day feel stitched together by your shared history. No "one-size-fits-all" playlists. No filler.

Final Thought: No Permission Needed

There's no wedding police. You don't need approval to skip traditions or rewrite the rules. You just need a clear sense of what makes you two you — and the courage to stick to it.

So, here's your permission slip (not that you need one): Ditch what doesn't spark joy. Double down on what does. Make memories that feel like yours, not a rehash of someone else's big day.

And if you want a DJ/MC who gets that — I'm your man.

Shortlist venues, then dive into the Berkshire venue guide for spaces that inspire your unique celebration.

Planning at venues like Hampton Court Palace or Pennyhill Park? Their elegant spaces provide the perfect backdrop for unique celebrations. Shortlist venues, then dive into the Surrey venue guide for spaces that enhance your unique celebration.

For truly unique celebrations, Painshill Park offers romantic garden settings while Hampton Court House provides elegant Georgian charm.

Planning an Oxfordshire celebration? Explore the Oxfordshire venue guide for stunning options like Newington House and Oxford Town Hall.

For Buckinghamshire unique celebrations, explore the Buckinghamshire venue guide featuring stunning locations like Hedsor House and Stoke Place.

Curious how I weave your story into the day? Read The Love Story.